You can do it… Try the 1:7 ratio

Good morning!! Most of us have no idea of our potential, we underestimate ourselves and know more about our limitations than our skills. Do you know about the 1:7 ratio? We remember negatives, insults or hurtful experiences 7 times more than positives, this was to help us survive when we first came to this earth, if you picked up a stick and that stick was actually a snake and bit you, you remember that and became much more careful and pay more attention next time, likewise, a child burning themselves on an oven will remember that, so it won’t make the same mistake twice. It’s a useful part of our blueprint. But now, we remember what people say, or that minor incident at work, or that one constructive criticism over all the positives we encounter every day… So in my quest to inspire happiness and positivity in all our lives I’d like to invite you to try outweighing these negative thoughts (from ourselves) or from others with 7 positives, with 7 things that make you awesome, 7 reasons why you rock…. What 7 things make you amazing? Every single time you feel less than fantastic, remind yourself of 7 new things that make you unique and a superhuman… If like most you can’t think of 7 things simply ask a friend to help! You could start with… 1. I’m alive, i’m here right now and I have a choice and I choose to see my awesomeness! 2. My heart has continued to beat every minute of every hour of everyday since I was born, without taking a break, without getting tired, without giving up! 3. My body is designed to heal, if I get a cut or a bruise without even thinking about it my body knows how to heal and repair itself!! 4. My lungs can breathe in 5-6 litres of air in one single breath, fuelling my cells with vital oxygen! 5. I have eyes to see blue skies, clouds floating by, raindrops, my friends, family &loved ones faces &smiles, to see new countries and views from planes, to see images that inspire me and brighten my day… 6. I have ears, I can hear my favourite music, to songs that bring back happy memories, I can hear the voices of people I love…7. I can smile about what I have… What are your 7 things that make you awesome?xx

you have it in you

My top 5 Tips for Happiness…

Hello Lovely People!

This subject has come up quite a lot recently… Happiness!

I’ve been asked by quite a few people, “What makes you so happy?” and it got me thinking about the most important things I do that keep me happy. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t always been this happy, it has taken work, a lot of reading, a lot of practicing things that help me stay happy, a lot of falling of my happiness wagon and a lot of listening. So here are my top 5 tips that keep me happy…

1. Gratitude… Everyday I make sure that I am grateful for everything I have, I have 2 arms, 2 legs, a face, a head of hair and a house and a job and that’s more than a lot of people. Once you start to feel grateful for the things we take for granted we become grateful for little things we would never have noticed! Like a smile from someone walking past, like having a great friend, like saving a snail from an oncoming bicycle, like watching a bee flying from flower to flower, like being able to help someone because you know it will help them and brighten their day! Simply by becoming grateful your world will change! Check out the book “Magic”, by Rhonda Byrne. This is a step by step guide to gratitude and has actually helped one of my athletes cure her frozen shoulder (in a week!)

So right now list 5 things you are grateful for and why…Go on…Now… Just do it….You will feel better for it, I promise 🙂

Tony Robbins says that he has met so many people who seem so successful and have achieved all their goals, but feel unfulfilled, “when you are grateful you are rich!”

2. Move More Every Day! Emotion comes from motion, if you are sat down hunched over, chances are you will not feel energetic enough to do a cartwheel! When we move we feel alive! So make it a habit to move every day, just go for a walk, while your at it think of 10 things your grateful for, just get outside and move, do something fun, or even try a power pose, simply standing in the wonder woman or Superman posture for 2 minutes will massively improve your hormone balance, slashing your stress hormone cortisol and bumping up your more well balanced testosterone! Do something fun you enjoy, like dancing, tai chi, yoga, line dancing, doing handstands with the kids, jump in puddles or rock out to some music, just move!

3. Meditate – Give yourself the gift of time, your time, you deserve it. I’ve met so many people, myself included who can fall into a pattern of putting everyone else’s needs before their own. Simply down load the “calm app” on the iPhone or iPad and just start doing 2 minutes a day, then after a week try 5 minutes a day! It will actually help you to be the best you you know you can be! It will stop you just grabbing junk food, or putting something you wish you hadn’t on facebook or just feeling so exhausted.

Did you know that it is proven that meditation improves brain function? Plus, deep breathing actually boosts your metabolism? It also slows the ageing process! So we will be slimmer, smarter, younger versions of ourselves in no time!

4. Eating as well as you can and staying hydrated is essential to my happiness! If I don’t eat right for me I don’t feel as bouncy, light, happy, energetic or fun! By eating lots of alkaline, raw foods we are feeding our cells, digestion is easier and we spend less time recovering from what we’ve eaten or drank. My good friend Suzie doesn’t drink alcohol, so when she goes out and the shots are given out she throws it over her shoulder (no-one notices) make a decision for yourself that you deserve to be happy and healthy and do it for you! No-one else! When you do it for yourself you will stick to it and any peer-pressure will roll off your back!

When I was little I always felt sick and it wasn’t until I’d lost 4 stone and given up dairy that I started waking up without a headache! I didn’t know it was an option! Just because you’ve never felt the benefits of feeling amazing doesn’t mean you can’t start!

You are worth this!

5. Have a chat with your inner 5 year old… Ok, this may sound strange, but I often refer back to my 5 year old self, would she think I was a cool grown-up? If not, I know I’m doing something wrong! My inner 5 year old wanted to jump off stuff, she wanted to feed the world and do good things, she wasn’t interested in material things, she wanted to play. She wanted to help starving people in Africa and donate shoe boxes at Christmas and get up early because there was so much fun stuff to do at the weekend! If there was an option to play, that was always the option, so make a play date with yourself to do something you used to do, like sewing, knitting, karate classes, litter picking (I loved litter picking at school) spinning in circles until you fell over, reconnect with that fun part of yourself and drop the baggage that comes with being an adult, it’s much more fun!

So there you have it… The things that make me happy, give them a go and let me know how you get on! I’d love to hear what inspires you!

Have fun lovely ones!xx

Compliments…

Hello lovely people!

I hope today finds you well!

We had a great corestick class last night, we worked up a great sweat and had a very interesting discussion which has inspired today’s blog…. Compliments… Giving them and receiving them.

So, over the last year I’ve made daily meditation and self reflection part of my daily routine and it has been an incredible year. Some things have been really hard to come to terms with, old habits that have held me back and even behaviors I have noticed that I’m not proud of, but it has helped me change into the person I want to be.

One of the things I used to do was hold myself back, weather it was not saying something to someone that might help, at the risk of them thinking I was weird, or not doing something I really wanted to. Or, as we spoke about last night, complimenting someone on something I admired in them, again because I was worried about what they might think of me… It is quite a British trait to not take a compliment, for example, “I love your dress” might get a response like, “oh, this, it was only £5 from primark” or “your hair looks lovely” might get a “oh god, it needs a wash” or even “have you lost weight, you look great” might get a “oh no, I’m having a fat day” or “I don’t know how, I’ve eaten like a pig” who has done this? My hand has to go up too!

But I want to get you and myself to get better at accepting these compliments. Last night we were talking about how hard it is sometimes giving a compliment, our inner mean girl or boy might tell us that we can’t say that, or they might think your weird or they might give us a funny look. But go on, tell your friend how much they brighten your day, tell a co-worker how incredible they look, or even the mum in the park how happy her children look around her.

Even writing this I feel inspired to go out now and tell people what a positive affect they have on my life.

The key to change is to do something towards your goal right now… So I’m going to send 5 messages now to people who inspire me to say thank you and why they are so awesome!

Go and make someone else smile, you will feel fantastic afterwards!

Love Aimie xx